With what seems like a million things to do every day, prioritizing what’s important can seem impossible. However, there are two simple things you can do to learn to prioritize properly: you’re going to have to delegate and ditch. This can be hard for many of us, who feel like we have to do everything ourselves to be considered successful. The truth is most successful people know how to outsource
So unburden and increase your chances of getting what you want and need by asking for help. Even though the idea of a mental load is most commonly associated with women who have children and a household to run
, everybody has a mental load, regardless of sex or family status. Single people have a mental load too. So, whatever your orientation or status, you need to ask for help when you can.
We know, we know: in that perfect fantasy world where everybody has an innately sensitive barometer for empathy, you wouldn’t have to ask for help. But the world is not perfect, and you will likely need to reach out and explicitly ask loved ones for assistance, if you want to get through your life intact and in good health.
The Art of the Ditch
You don’t have to do everything. Repeat after us: “I don’t have to do everything.” Sure, there are some things that are near non-negotiable, like putting in time with your family, but we tend to overburden ourselves with tasks and commitments that really don’t need to be done.
You don’t have to make homemade cookies for your kid’s school party: you can buy store bought. The world won’t end.
You don’t have to go for every round of after-work drinks with friends. You can choose to go home, slip into your jammies, and get a good night’s sleep so you can crush tomorrow’s work and workout goals.
You don’t have to spend hours scouring the mall for a new party dress for an upcoming special event. Something you already own will probably work wonderfully.
Make a mental distinction for yourself between things you have to do and things you think you have to do. When you’re feeling drained and like you’re not going to be able to be your best self, bow out whenever possible — and it’s going to be possible more often than not.
A survey conducted by the American Psychological Association
discovered that more women than men feel stressed at Christmas, and therefore ultimately have a more difficult time actually enjoying the season.
You may feel like you’re letting people down, but remember this handy adage: the people who matter won’t mind, and the people who mind don’t matter. You deserve to enjoy your life, and you’ll be able to enjoy if you don’t stress yourself out trying to be everything to everyone. Take care of yourself first.